Now this is where it gets complicated (as if choosing a date was not complicated enough). Dun dun dun dun... the Guest List!!!
This is a big factor which will dictate your budget as well. The bigger the number, the more you need to shell out for venue and food.
We just want something intimate so we just wanted 50 guest initially. Just immediate family and friends who know us both and our story. But we had a really hard time trimming down the guest list.
Factors that may increase the guest list (wow po):
1. Kamag-anak - Filipino wedding = Fiesta, it's a tradition and for others it is considered road (sorry can't help it XD) if you don't invite all your kamag-anaks.
2. Kumare and Kumpare - Sometimes even kumares and kapitbahays get a seat if your parents insist they also get invited.
3. Titos and Titas of Manila - if you or your partner or both are already certified Titos and Titas, chances are you're friends are already married so that's already x2 seats in invites and sometimes they also have kids they need to bring.
My advice is to handle your parents, sit with them and talk to them and explain that it's not easy. That there is an (unnecessary) equivalent cost on inviting kamag anaks and kumares and kumpares. If they are willing to shell out additional budget to cover the cost then good otherwise, learn to say no.
A wedding is an intimate ceremony for the two of you so it should be about you and what you want not what others want for you.
And for friends with partners and children it is okay to tell them you can only allot 'x' no. of seats for them because if they have already been wed they should know how costly it is to get wed and how hard it is to manage a guest list and they would understand.
Who should I invite?
Really it's up to you. You can invite the president if you want to. Here are some guide question I found helpful:
1. Have you both met the person? - since we're trying to trim it down, we only invited people that we both know.
2. Are you updated with each other's lives? Are you still in contact?
3. For office mates, would you still be connected if you moved out of the company?
4. Are they important to you?
5. Am I comfortable being around this person? - for me Exes are big no nos even if they are still friends. It's my wedding too and I shouldn't have to worry about anything I'm not comfortable with. (hairflip XD)
This is a big factor which will dictate your budget as well. The bigger the number, the more you need to shell out for venue and food.
We just want something intimate so we just wanted 50 guest initially. Just immediate family and friends who know us both and our story. But we had a really hard time trimming down the guest list.
Factors that may increase the guest list (wow po):
1. Kamag-anak - Filipino wedding = Fiesta, it's a tradition and for others it is considered road (sorry can't help it XD) if you don't invite all your kamag-anaks.
2. Kumare and Kumpare - Sometimes even kumares and kapitbahays get a seat if your parents insist they also get invited.
3. Titos and Titas of Manila - if you or your partner or both are already certified Titos and Titas, chances are you're friends are already married so that's already x2 seats in invites and sometimes they also have kids they need to bring.
My advice is to handle your parents, sit with them and talk to them and explain that it's not easy. That there is an (unnecessary) equivalent cost on inviting kamag anaks and kumares and kumpares. If they are willing to shell out additional budget to cover the cost then good otherwise, learn to say no.
A wedding is an intimate ceremony for the two of you so it should be about you and what you want not what others want for you.
And for friends with partners and children it is okay to tell them you can only allot 'x' no. of seats for them because if they have already been wed they should know how costly it is to get wed and how hard it is to manage a guest list and they would understand.
Who should I invite?
Really it's up to you. You can invite the president if you want to. Here are some guide question I found helpful:
1. Have you both met the person? - since we're trying to trim it down, we only invited people that we both know.
2. Are you updated with each other's lives? Are you still in contact?
3. For office mates, would you still be connected if you moved out of the company?
4. Are they important to you?
5. Am I comfortable being around this person? - for me Exes are big no nos even if they are still friends. It's my wedding too and I shouldn't have to worry about anything I'm not comfortable with. (hairflip XD)
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